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“To err is human, to forgive is divine!” how often we have heard of that phrase and used it to excuse ourselves from not forgiving. After all we are just human isn’t it, so how can we muster up such divine God qualities and forgive? Furthermore, we are the injured party, they wronged us, they put us down, they hurt us. How can we forgive and forget? Forgiveness is not the same as forgetting Obviously, we cannot forget the event that was painful, or the person who wronged us

There are fundamentally two kinds of conflict in a relationship: Solvable problems and Perpetual issues. It helps if couples realise this and deal with it in a healthy manner. Solvable problems are usually more specific and situational. For example, Renu is exhausted at the end of the day and hurt that Santosh doesn’t even notice and sits in front of the TV instead of helping to clear up after dinner. Other examples of solvable problems are, helping with childcare, respecting

By the end of June, we realize that half the year is over. Life has settled back into a rut of mundane routine and maybe some of us are feeling like the song writer Peter Hendricks, “...get me out of the comfort zone, I’m tired of living like a dry bone, taking up space, burning up the ozone- get me out - I want out of my comfort zone.” Doing the same thing, day in and day out, boring and monotonous as it may be, is still seductive. The reason is obvious; there is comfort in

Does it matter if I’m happy? I mean is it necessary for my survival? Guess what, it is! Several scientists have found the people who feel happy live longer. They definitely live better as well. More specifically, studies have shown that, ‘feeling good can transform people for the better, making them more optimistic, resilient and socially connected. (Barbara L. Fredrickson). Twenty years of experiments by Alice Isen show that when people feel good, their thinking becomes more

“I don't need a parachute. Baby, if I've got you. Baby, if I've got you. I don't need a parachute. You're gonna catch me. You're gonna catch me if I fall. Down n down ….” The song by Cheryl Cole has us shaking our heads in disbelief. Only a fool would attempt to sky dive without a parachute. Ok, so it’s meant metaphorically, but even then, it’s totally unrealistic. After all, is it possible for just one person be your all in all, rescue you every time you feel unsafe, make yo

Pramod and Shalina are very devoted parents. They shower love and affection on their son Ranjit. They never missed his PTM’s, his kabaddi matches or his guitar performances. They are always available when he wants to talk and they guide him with every decision he takes. They let him know ever so often that he is the centre of their world. They sound like perfect parents. The trouble is, that Ranjit is now 27 years old, a working professional and married to the love of his lif